Better feedback, better listening, better everything

The leadership skillset that builds collaborative traction 

If you asked most leaders whether they listen well and give feedback effectively, the majority would say yes. The people around them might tell a different story.

That gap, between intention and actual impact, is where most interpersonal friction at work originates.

It shows up as feedback that never gets given, or that lands badly when it does. It shows up in the stories people construct when no one tells them clearly what’s working or what isn’t — stories that fill the silence, get retold, and harden into assumptions that are very hard to shift. It shows up on teams where small tensions accumulate because the conversations that would clear the air keep getting postponed.

In remote and hybrid workplaces, this gets harder still: the informal aside, the quick check-in after a meeting, the tone you could read in someone’s face — those friction-reducers aren’t as available as they used to be.

The good news is that these are learnable skills, not personality traits you either have or don’t – and they get reliably sharper with attention and practice.

That’s the premise behind my upcoming course with SFU Continuing Studies: Feedback and Listening for Effective Leadership. Two interactive virtual mornings, June 25 and 26.

On the listening side, we’ll practice what it takes to listen well under pressure, across difference and – especially – when you disagree.

On the feedback side, we’ll work with a simple but powerful model for giving useful, skillful feedback — both the kind that redirects and the kind that tells people what’s working and why. We’ll also hone skills for receiving feedback in ways that that help others feel seen while helping us grow, without deflecting or getting defensive.

The sessions are small, discussion-based, and built for practice with other leaders like you. You’ll leave with concrete tools and some hard-won perspective from peers working through the same challenges. 

We’d love to see you there!  Register here  

The Hardest part of becoming a manager might surprise you

After twenty years of working with leaders across sectors, I’ve noticed that the transition into management tends to catch people off guard — not because of the complexity of the role, but because of how personal it turns out to be.

The shift from individual contributor to team leader is as much an identity shift as a skills shift. Your job is no longer to be the best at the work. It’s to create conditions where others can do their best work. That means trusting people before you’re fully certain they’re ready, and measuring your success by their outcomes rather than your own output.

Most of us need a little help making that transition well. That’s what my upcoming course with SFU Continuing Studies is designed to do.

Managing Others and Delegating Effectively runs over two virtual mornings, May 21 and 22. We’ll work through the mindset shifts, practical frameworks, and real strategies that help new and emerging leaders move from doing to leading.

I’d love to see you there. Register here.

Essential Skills for Hybrid and Remote Work

The brilliant Alexandra Samuel, one of the world’s leading experts on thriving digital workplaces, has put together a checklist of the key competencies and skills needed to successfully – and happily! – navigate hybrid or fully remote work. Whether you’re a brand new employee starting your first job or a seasoned professional recently transitioning to hybrid work, or supporting other remote employees on your team, these skills, habits and strategies can be game-changers.

With her permission, here’s the same checklist in the form of an anonymous short survey.

See Alexandra’s original blog post, with her at-a-glance checklist, here. Print out the checklist on Alexandra’s site, or take the 3-minute survey, and reflect: What are the top three skills or habits you’re currently using that feel most effective?  And what are the three areas you might want to tune-up in order to get work done with greater ease and impact? 

There’s no ‘right answer’ – I love that one of Dr. Samuel’s constant caveats is that your digital work practices need to work for your unique strengths and needs – there is no ‘one size fits all’.  What makes YOU feel happy, energized, and able to more easily focus on your priorities?

If you’re ready to learn about a ton of strategies and tips that can bring more joy and ease to your remote and hybrid work life, either for yourself or as a team leader, see Alexandra’s snappy, info-packed online LinkedIn course on remote and hybrid work here.